At first glance, boundaries seems fairly straight-forward as a topic for exploration. Yet the field is more complex than might first appear and, paradoxically, that effective boundaries are essential for enabling expansive freedoms and creativity and connecting, as well as for safeguarding our personal spaces and wellbeing.
The type of boundary-setting we engage in (and that we honour) shows others how we want to be treated, and is an integral component of loving ourselves and loving others. Our boundaries are bound to be challenged by, and challenge, others; and how we address those challenges and negotiate the relationships is a key to our values, the life we have and the results we see. Perhaps the biggest thought here is recognising that we always do have choice.
Dr David Gruder neatly summarises some of the key dimensions.
"A boundary is any limit I need to honor so I can love or work with you without resentment and with integrity.”
What thoughts or actions occur to you from this starting point?
Focusing on boundaries ALSO brings awareness to the ways in which as women we can tend to talk and act in order to fit in with the cultural pressure to stay small and not stand out. Do you see this at all in yourself or in the women you know? It could show up as self-deprecating language, keeping quiet - or there be women you know who are already highly successful yet have not yet begun to unfurl their true magnficence and contribution to the world.
The type of boundary-setting we engage in (and that we honour) shows others how we want to be treated, and is an integral component of loving ourselves and loving others. Our boundaries are bound to be challenged by, and challenge, others; and how we address those challenges and negotiate the relationships is a key to our values, the life we have and the results we see. Perhaps the biggest thought here is recognising that we always do have choice.
Dr David Gruder neatly summarises some of the key dimensions.
"A boundary is any limit I need to honor so I can love or work with you without resentment and with integrity.”
What thoughts or actions occur to you from this starting point?
Focusing on boundaries ALSO brings awareness to the ways in which as women we can tend to talk and act in order to fit in with the cultural pressure to stay small and not stand out. Do you see this at all in yourself or in the women you know? It could show up as self-deprecating language, keeping quiet - or there be women you know who are already highly successful yet have not yet begun to unfurl their true magnficence and contribution to the world.
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