Highlights from On Becoming Real

Last weekend, an amazing and growing collective of women came together once again to enjoy each others'  company as Women Howling at the Moon deep dived into the territory of becoming REAL, becoming AUTHENTIC and living true to who they really are. It was a vibrant conversation. Wow. For one tiny snippet into the kinds of the breakthroughs and actions that came out of the evening, imagine the difference created by a health educator who is taking on inspiring other health professionals to a new model of care for patients.   

 Below, a brief summary of areas covered by the conversations. 

Becoming Real

What is that?

• Letting go of what is not real
• Speaking up / being authentic / knowing yourself
• Deciding who you are and being OK with that
• not having to hide behind bravado
• Being fearless about being vulnerable
• Being honest
• Not getting caught up in drama
• Feeling at peace - a sense of being grounded
• Being conscious, present - and feeling aligned with our conscience
• It's fun

What's in the Way?

In the individual inner domain

• Negative programming (eg from family of origin)
• Belief system
• Social programming (eg from religious)
• Shame, guilt
• Negative self chatter
• Being scared of being seen, having eye contact

Societally

• Cultural impacts and rules
• Upbringing - told to conform
• Oppression - restrictive
• Gender constraints
• Legal factors
• Societal positioning eg financially richer/poorer, and denial of access to power eg comparison between a woman and a white middle aged man
• Repetitive patterns

In the external world, close to us

• Not wanting to hurt people
• Perceiving no way around something, letting go of a hoped for outcome
• Having responsibilities as the sole breadwinner
• Having to consider the partnership
• Factors such as money, tansport, skills
• Access to help - e.g. computers
• Health issues
• Work culture
• Family culture
• Sabotage - guilt trip

What's Needed - Personal Agency

• Identification of triggers to go deeper
• An event to motivate action
• Reflection
• Acknowledgment
• Choosing the way things are, to devote focus to where change can happen
• Courage to take a stand
• Courage to move on
• Identification of what the real cost is of NOT becoming real
• Deep acknowledgment that I am enough and I am deeply lovable
• Finding your tribe.

Like to See What's Possible for You in Getting Real?

I currently offer a complimentary discovery session to women in Brisbane and beyond who want to step into their courage to get real and be the difference they want for themselves and their world.

You'll gain clarity about your present challenges and the results you want, identify the gaps and discover your most important next steps. The session will also enable you to gain a sense of what it could be like to have a coach support you to achieving your goals. 
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To book your 40 minute session, visit Chris' online calendar and choose a spot.

Next month: Deal with Your Inner Critic!

Next gathering is Wednesday 20 July. The topic: Our Inner Critic, that Itty Bitty Shitty Committee we carry around with us.  Do you have an inner critic you struggle with, that stops you from doing things you would have loved to accomplish, or you know you CAN do? Well at our next event we're going to be Howling about this. Everyone is going to get deep into this topic to identify how they stop us and to gain some tools and techniques to beat it.  

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