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26/5/2016

Including a conversation with Speaking Coach Janelle Manton

26/5/2016

As Brené Brown reminds us, "Courage starts with showing up and letting ourselves be seen'. This is exactly what was done recently by a community of women.

Together, some thirty women defined what owning our courage IS, and how we'd know we actually ARE. We examined situations where we DON'T. We discovered some of the main BLOCKS and WHAT'S MISSING. We identified those areas we most WANT TO TRANSFORM, and what sort of a difference that

would make. Finally, a number of women also took on a PERSONAL CHALLENGE over the next four weeks: to own their courage in an area that would make a real difference for them.

Now the challenge is staying connected with the vision, doing what it takes, and setting up the structures to enable that to happen.

Scroll down to see main points from the evening.

How do I define owning my courage?

Walking out from my house feeling safe
Public speaking
Recognising it in myself
Being authentic about my own courage in the company of others (not downplaying it etc)
Accepting acknowledgment from others
Vulnerability
Acknowledging my commitment and knowing I DID follow through
Overcoming my limiting beliefs
Fearlessness and conviction - would be happening more organically
Knowing that it's okay to have fear - and not having it running you
Speaking up, doing the hard thing (advocacy)
Doing what is the right thing to do
Being mindful of my self sabotage
Loving self, working to a plan.

Where do we own our courage?

Making a permanent separation
Leaving a dire do-or-die situation to live in another country
When we see injustice, take action - and take on being the whistleblower
In the ordinary actions. Instead of diminishing them, we remember them for next time

Why don't we own our courage?

Societal beliefs
Lack of willingness to make mistakes - and to live through the costs
Guilt - questioning should you be putting your energy elsewhere?
Fear of standing out
Lack of direction or plans
We've been groomed by home experiences / upbringing, so that we think this is normal
Money - finding an income
Obligations, responsibilities, demands on time and energy

What are the blocks in the way?

We feel inadequate.
We're running from the belief that I don't really deserve good things
We're living from a space of low self esteem
Shame
We've learnt to make ourselves look small
Belief that we shouldn't act like we feel good about ourselves
Need to change our self perception
Financial necessity keeps us in a situation.
When we are feeling there is no hope.

What's missing, that needs to be present?

Conviction - belief in myself that I can do it.
Belief that other people want what I have to offer.
Worth - acknowledgement of the value of what you want to do.
Self worth: the social and recognised value of what you do and what you want to do.
We need to have plans / goals / a catalyst
We need a wife - a supportive partner / coach / mentor / support.
Waking up and breathing each day, being present
Time and energy and creativity
Recognition that we can't afford not to move forward.

Where would I most like to create ownership of my courage?

Have more confidence and let go of being stopped by the fear
Stop being a perfectionist!
Love and be kinder to myself / accept myself and befriend my inner critics
Be present, being more mindful and having a peaceful mind
Be more playful and creative
Take more time for myself
Spend time with mentors and those who will support me stepping into my courage

From tonight, one thing I'll do to make a difference for my life / world?

Keep on writing.
Make a plan for where I want to be.
Be kinder, more self supportive of myself when I'm stepping into courage.
Ask for help / support.
Build more strength.
Get up, walk out the front door. Repeat daily.
Acknowledge that I'm growing in awareness.

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Chris is a Courage Catalyst and bold stand for women ready to claim their courage, creativity and unstoppability and achieve the powerful results they want for themselves, their personal life, their business, the world.

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Including a conversation with Speaking Coach Janelle Manton

On Women Owning t﻿heir Courage

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